Killing Us Softly ~ PDF
Killing Us Softly: Becoming the Surviving Spouse of Cancer
Red Dwyer’s Killing us Softly is a monumental book of heartfelt and practical advice for getting through and surviving the onslaught of cancer and death of a spouse.
With the use of real time journal entries and blog posts, the author reaches out to readers in a unique way to guide them through all the emotions, responsibilities, and processes of being the caretaker of a marriage partner.
Self-care and the care of the children are her primary focus, as she becomes the sole head of household and cup of love for her dying spouse and surviving family of nine children, three of whom are autistic.
The book is supremely well-balanced in a way that has never been offered to the public before. The journal entries and blog posts draw us into her intimate life as she grieves privately yet exhibits her strength throughout and beyond the dying process. The focus is on helping the reader maneuver through the seemingly herculean feats of love and physical care which are assigned to the surviving spouse once the diagnosis of cancer is definite.
From discussion on diagnosis and decisions to be made, through treatment and endgame, Red Dwyer holds our hand and shares with us her advice for not only surviving but also claiming our lives as we traverse this difficult and often hidden journey. She discusses the role of spirituality in the lives of the caretaking spouses, and the details of cancer treatment as a partner in the comfort of her loved one.
Almost all of us are faced with treatment options at end of life, and many of us don’t face them until we are feeble and sick and not entirely in a place to make those decisions. While cancer has specific decisions to be made, Dwyer discusses the choices we all make when faced with extended treatment of a terminal illness or allowing nature to take its course.
From diagnosis to hospice care, endgame and beyond, this author will be ultimately helpful to millions, who before this point have persevered and survived in silence.
Let the healing begin.
I like to jump in puddles during a rain storm and go running at night to catch moon beams. A little weird yet a boatload of fun there is never a dull moment in my world. I am a writer, baker, candle stick maker and mother to a herd I call The Gaggle I believe in Santa, fairies and happily ever after and enjoy a cup of sunshine straight from a buttercup in place of afternoon tea. Butterflies are what keep me focused on many shiny things whenever they happen to pass by. I feel my world in high definition super charged color with sound effects and use my palette to make sense of it with art, and words, and however else I can. Born in PA, raised in CO I am a Colorado girl at heart currently living in the desert of Arizona. I have been here five years and I really miss the snow.